"Parent to build adults, not maximize happiness Twenge received advice early in her parenting journey that reframed her entire approach to technology rules: "Your job is to raise a successful adult. Your job is not to make your kid happy at every single moment." This distinction makes short-term disappointment — a child upset about phone restrictions — acceptable and even necessary. Applied to technology, it means enforcing limits around sleep, social media, and in-person time even when kids protest, because those habits compound into the mental health and social skills they'll carry into adulthood. Source: Jean Twenge, The Happiness Lab, Social Media and Teen Mental Health"