"Replace 'why' questions with 'how' questions When discussing why people stop doing the habits they know are good for them, Marie Forleo points out that 'why' questions encourage navel-gazing and can spiral into self-criticism. She recommends asking instead, "How can I be more consistent in doing the things that I know make me feel good?" or "How can I set myself up to win the vast majority of time?" because "how questions really aim your brain towards the solution rather than the problem." Switching that one word in your self-talk redirects mental energy from blame to practical problem-solving. Source: Marie Forleo, MarieTV, Q&A Tuesday"