"Recognize gaslighting by the cheater's defensive anger Ariana Madix described how, after discovering Tom's affair, he spent the next 48 hours turning his anger on her rather than taking responsibility. She observed that 'when someone that has been keeping a secret for so long gets called out, all they've been doing is lying — and so their natural response is to lean in harder to trying to gaslight you, trying to distort your reality, like trying to make you feel crazy somehow.' If a partner who is caught betraying you immediately becomes the aggressor, that pattern itself is evidence of guilt, not of your fault. Source: Ariana Madix, Call Her Daddy, Ariana Madix"