"Stop trying to rescue people who aren't ready to change Vaughn described burning significant time and energy trying to help friends change, then realizing the effort was wasted because they weren't ready: "I'm really not that powerful. Like I can't want them to change. And the same way that I probably had people try to help me and I wasn't ready to change." He acknowledged this was rooted in a good impulse — when you find better ways of doing things, you want others to have them — but said the most you can do is "say it once, encourage them, give them grace and be there for them." The practical change: say your piece once, then redirect your energy to your own growth instead of their transformation. Source: Vince Vaughn, Theo Von Podcast, Vince Vaughn Episode"