"Use parenting values to attract aligned friendships Vince Vaughn noticed that when his kids were young, parents would bond simply because their children were the same age — then discover on a vacation that their parenting styles were incompatible. His insight: "if it's just a basic idea of how you go about handling stuff, you kind of attract people that share those ideas. But if you're competing all the time, I think you're kind of going to get in a bad situation." Rather than chasing social proximity based on convenience, deliberately signal your actual values so the people who show up already share them. Source: Vince Vaughn, Theo Von Podcast, Vince Vaughn Episode"